Sail on

My review went great. My boss was very positive about my performance,
but that’s not why it went great. It went great because we had a
really productive conversation about the team dynamic and morale at
the organization. (I couldn’t figure out how to work in one line of
discussion about a certain person in the department who has her
completely snowed, but I figure that will all come to light at some
point.)


I noticed something today that I noticed also in my group work at the
training I went to a few weeks ago: I will want to bring up a topic,
one that may be unpopular. I will spend much time thinking about the
topic and preparing what I want to say about it and how I will
introduce it into the conversation. For example, I journaled for three
days about the discussion I wanted to have with my boss and then
agonized about how to bring it up in a way that wouldn’t be awkward or
aggressive. I would, like a good introvert, rehearse my lines and
then, when the interaction happens, wait for the right time to bring
it up. I did the same thing with our group exercises at my workshop
when I wanted to give someone feedback.


And inevitably,despite my nervousness and concern, the right time
always arises organically. And more often than not, the other person -
or another person in the group if it is more than two – opens the door
with an observation about the very topic and often similar feelings.
It’s such a rewarding experience. I wonder if it has to do with the
law of attraction…regardless, it’s always pretty sweet when it does
happen.


But it’s Friday night. Time for wine. Sail on into the weekend. Enjoy everyone!